cherylene's frens say they cant click wif me... supposedly i have no situational awareness, is not very gentlemanly, have a poor sense of humour and speaks lousy english.. they ask her "does he always go dutch wif u?" i really tried to treat hem like frens but from the bottom of my heart, i realli start to feel that its qte naive for me to treat them as my frens... listening to one of them when she broke up wif her bf.. thinking of another of her fren n calling to offer to dapao supper when i was at sheares... or even offering to open the tightly closed cockles at prawn fishing til my nails hurt.. i think all these are not gonna get them to see me as a fren... i thnk perhaps i shld work on my english n how i carry myself perhaps?

wads most disturbing is that cherylene is very upset by wad they think.. n everytime we quarrel its reali more or less abt me doing like somethg wrong in front of her frens... wrong.. haha... evn that i do not realli noe whether i realli did smethg wrong or not.. was studyg my psyche textbook... one of the effective ways of couple therapy is IBCT, to teach the couple not to make changes but to be les critical and more accepting...

end of the day, i noe i have my flaws.. but im very sure i have qualities many guys might lack which i think r the more important attributes for having a long lasting relationship... i guess ill work on my flaws.. end of the day, i feel cherylene being so upset about her frens' views of me is realli doing lots of damage to this relationship.. if it goes on, im not even sure i can take it...

in any case, if a relationship has to end because my gf is upset by a bunch of superficial frens, i guess all i can do is look back n just laugh it off.. i hope tat day wun come cuz i feel... such a nice gf.. n in many ways compaitable.. being lost this way will be the most stupid thg i have ever allowed to happen to me... sigh =(