Torn.
Sunday, December 31, 2006,

hmm... recently i have been thinking this man... n i was wonderg whether my theory abt how this thg can improve relationships between frens, lovers, parent n kids n stuff... so here goes...

recently i realise... for a relationship to go to the next step... verbal acknowledgement towards effort to a relationship is very impt... its like not onli is verbal acknowledgement impt... by wad standards shld we use to gauge effort?? lets say a mother has a lazy son who never finishes his tuition homewk... usually completing juz half of it... say after many weeks of nagging, he decided to put in more effort but he onli finished say 75% of his work... although he still has not completed his work but no doubt he made a significant effort to improve... should e the mother praise him?? or continue scolding him for having not completetd his wk again?? by the mum's standards, its perhaps simply basic requirement that his son finishes all his wk... so e 25% increase in completion is by no means somethg worth praising perhaps... however if the son remembered wad his mum sai, proceeded to try n do more but still havent complete it but he never receives praise (acknowledgemt) or even worse gets scolded again, there is a possibility this one little incident will cause his to feel there is no pt tryg... this is becuz by the son's standards, he has exceeded his own standards... so i guess we shld weigh an effort thru the person's capabilities and standards and not our own standards...

in a way we study this in new media... the acknowledgemt is wad i will call "feedback"... have there been times when we press a lift button n the light is spoilt we start feeling perturbed over whether the lift button was sucessfully pressed... so we need the button to light up... if there is a lift that alwaz have tis prob... we might not take that lift again becuz its irritatg to be in suspense whether the lift is spoilt or wad... so acknowledgemnt and feedback will bring abt appreciation and reassurance in a relationship... like a husband might feel that his wife is spendg too much but if she spends like 800 instead of 1k for that month on clothes and accessory, by the wife;s standards, she has improved... maybe the husband is silently happy abt this but if he keeps mum, his wife might be less encouraged to cut her spendg... cuz everyone loves praise...

however, this links us to start to wonder, so muz i reassure and say thanx for everythg that the other party do?? isnt it very unrealistic to praise every small thg that he or she does?? perhaps alwaz saying these thgs are very tiring 2... n maybe everytime will be unecessary... but once every while might be a gd amount i think? or izzit not?? hahaha... n we must think that if a person is expectg praise every time, the person providing praise might be very stressed becuz once praise is not given when the party is expectg it, there might be conflict... hence i feel we shld not be overly upset when we have indeed did somethg that have exceeded our own standards but are not praised... so tats all... may ya relationships benefit frm this entry!!!

12:18 AM

Friday, December 29, 2006,

OMG!!! my laptop almoz died.... i cant help but feel damn fortunate that im using this very laptop to update my blog now man... yestrdae i accidentally overturned a cup of water n **splaasshhh**... the water hit the printer top n splashed over to my lappie man... i switched off power immediately then tested the laptop... cldnt press ctrl+alt+del to enter windows... woah... then i scared it short circuit... switched it off n decided to let the thg rest man... whole nite cldnt sleep at all... nowadays without com realli is handicapped man... then how to do biddg n stuff?? woah... all the horrifying consequences... then before i slept i prayed damn hard to grandpa that the laptop will recover when i wake up... i switched it on... then at the fujitsu screen there was a loud n like jammed kinda beep that went on for damn long man... then suddenly it stopped n the prompt for ctrl alt del appeared... i prayed hard n pressed... n it worked!!! =)

i remember last time when i was in army got one time somethg big oso happened... a few training blanks went off frm my weapon... i was damn freaked out... n my sergeant brought me to my officer... then he jokingly n sarcastically said "another case of accidental discharge, haha (yes, he HAHAed me), wad to do??" i was damn angry but scared 2... i prayed hard to gonggong again... the officer said he will deal wif it later n in the end nothg happened at all... i booked out safely!!! **phew**

really... if ah gong u really were there for me all along.. i juz wanna say a big thank you to u... n perhaps its oso a lesson to tell me to not onli cherish wad i have (MY laptop!!!!) but oso realise that there are pple hu r helping me without me knowing it n perhaps i shld stop to notice these pple n cherish wadever they r doing for me... so thanx all my frens n family n huever that ever lent me a hand... thanx....

8:46 AM

Thursday, December 28, 2006,

me and honey at parkway on xmas eve before going pitstop cafe...


this is supposed to be a dragon... and tis is a frog tat looks like julie hahaha
looks like xmas tree ya?? =) if im not wrong tis is stefanie sun hahaha


mickey plus strawberry shortcake... hehehe

blk d dog hahahahha

woah had lots to do recently... hall very bz wif sports com stuff... and xinyao stuff... n im in the finals of some national song writing competition... my senior sent me some tune n i composed lyrics and singg tune... work thru the midnite then guess wad, in the finals!!! hahhaha damn tyco hehehhee but david (my senior) hu did the music... he totally rox man... his rm wif keybd and condenser mike n his laptop programs realli makes half a recordg studio... feels gd to make music wif pros!!! hehehe 27th jan at UCC (university cultural center)... pls be there!!! can ged tics frm me!! aniwaes beetin is in the finals 2!!! hahaha

then xmas quite happening man... met huihuang and gang at board games pitstop cafe... had lotsa fun... we were playg taboo then when huihuang said i like to surf?? we all shouted "porn!!!!" wahahahaha... damn funny man... after tat we played pool n all the guys got thrashed by elaine as usual... hahha... n i was the onli guy hu won her!!! but she let water wan lah muz be hhehehehhe after tat me n elaine went to clarke quay n walked arnd... its damn nice... we had a super nice talk... hahaha wonderful xmas eve... elaine played a guessing game wif me at coffeebean... damn fun oso... dunno hw to describe hahahha..

nxt dae woke up damn late man... went to a flower exhibition wif my mum... quite nice though im not realli the flowers type of guy hahaha... but well.. after tat went back hall for steambt!!! damn nice food!!! all the meat i cut wan k... damn pro ok... ok lah minsun cut wif me hahhah... we exchanged presents n i got chocolates frm minsun... i got lotsa chocs now man... anione want to eat?? i sick now cannt eat hahaha... then we played drinking games til 3plus... shiok... i made a stupid rule must squat on chair when drinking then keep on forgettg... hahaha...

aniaes hope u guys had a merry xmas and hope to seeya guys at the concert!!!! =)

1:13 PM

Monday, December 11, 2006,

yoozozzzz... hahahha actualli i kinad cock up the arrangement... as in the next entry was kinda supposed to come befor tis so... ya... for pple hu ike to ask HOWS UNI LIFE... well this is hall life =) theres supper, room hopping, abita drinking =) mugging togethr... blk D... u realli rock!! n ive made many great frens here... hahha below are some of my bez frens in hall... but i dun have mark's pic ahahaha... but aniwaes i like studied a lot wif him n we like take 3 lectrures n 2 titorials 2gethr without planning man hahaha... luv ya mark!!! hahaha

a small drinking session initiated by weiliang hahaha, aka ah bang (brother in malay!!) hahah... hes playing the guitar there and we r sharing a few drinks and having a spirit from philipines tat is like 65% alchohol or somethg?? hahaha


this is fong seng!!! the place that is making me fat hahahhaha... pj on the left, gwen then daniel... haha, gwen is hu i call twaeji (pig in korean!!!) hahaha... seriously gwen eats alot man!!! juz finish dinner then 7 plus ask me n weiliang to go fong seng liao haaha... n look at those biceps.... to think i held him to a draw at arm wrestling... ah bang said i use body weight... wadever hahaha


minsun on the left... then tien kwan, diana and veron... minsun's the cute and adorable korean gal... hahaha, taught me lotsa korean, famous for her ultra high concentration levels and mugging power, hahah... oso gets hungry easily due to bad influence... tien kwan in green.. rarely in hall but alwaz a pretty sight to behold.. hahah, still remember we meet at the movie screening hhahaha... come to think of it ya r the first person i noe in TH!! hahaha... tat diana.. a very violent gal hahaha... n veron... her massaging skills rocks!! as in massage shoulders, not sms k u IDIOTS hahahha


woah... these are my brothers from D1... back row is chanyip, soonkit n me!! front is ah bang, juz hoong n kahn!!! hahhaa... soonkit is forever having some gal in his room, famous for supper bojio!! jun hoong (striped shirt) is the cambodian lookalike haha... damn nice person... help me fiz my lappie n he knocks on my door to tell me all his cup noodles are mine!!! hahhaa love him man!!! then there is kahn... hahha remember how ya helped me wif the blinds n how we got chased away by security when we played bball when were still in orientatn?? n all the washg powder ya gave me... haha... loveya 2!!


this is me and ah bang at some blk supper tat we were forced to wear gals clothes!!! my brother seriously... thanx for being there for me whenever i feel down... but no thanx for alwaz jio me go supper hahaha... make me fat... but then again hahaha, its still better u jio me lah hahahhaa... then again, life in TH wldnt be the same without u... hahaha, tis sounds gay but heck, we were caught in the act by gwen n minsun liao ya?? hahhaa.. thanx bang, uve been a damn gd fren!!!


JUJU!!!!!!!! haha... ya r realli one of the nicest person on earth ive ever met... uve been there for me to listen be it lame jokes or sad stories... n alwa abused my my singing hahhaa... though u claim to be ambivalent n say u will "iron" my clothes, ya r stilll dddaaammnnn nice!!!! pperrllleeasssee!! hahaha... aniwaes, nxt sem we will see lotsa each other!!!! =) DEAN"S LIST!!!! hahahaha... woah write til damn shag le!!!! love EVERYONE OF YA!!! n again... i emphasize on the percentage =) hahaha


12:31 AM

Sunday, December 10, 2006,

heyhey pple... woah that dae when i thot that no one reads my blog... i was terribly surprised man... hahaha... i guess now is the bez time to write a blog cuz we r damn bored!!! even huihuang has a blog now man!! oh gosh!! hahaha... n for pple hu like to start a conversatn wif " HOwS UNI LIFE??"... heres a brief summary =) ... my fds guys, my hall pple, huihuang, xiong n jingang... luv ya guys!!! n of cuz u guys get like 30% of my luv ( might be overstatemt, hahaha) cuz the rest is like more or less with someone else =) ***bbBBllLuuSSHhEEss***

well this is me n elaine at PS... eatg ajisens... we were on our way to watch HAPPY FEET!! brought my cousin 2!! but i shall not post the pic in case u guys think hes my son =p... damn nice movie... a muz watch!!! aniwae, went thru n perhaps still going thru tough times... but hope thgs will turn out juz fine... =) like linjie says... if ya like a gal, put in some effort n make thgs work!! (L.C. WU 2006)... hahaha
hahhaa... me n elaine at Toysrus!! had great fun playing with toy swords, xmas hats n lotsa stuff!!! hahaha... i love toys man... n if ya guys associate liking for toys to be immature... u guys might need somemore thinking... cuz maturity is not based on superficiality... its like gwen looks kinda slim but omg... she eats like... erhem... hahha


tis is victoria!!! hahaha.... walao, i remember i kept seeing her at lecture, but she seemed to be alwaz sitting alone... so i decided to pop by and say hi... i asked her why are ya like alone again?? then i realised tat dae she was wif her frens hu were beside me n staring at me!! hahaha... aniwaes we take like 3 modules 2gether n like realli are damn good frens now!! lecture she never come i feel damn lost man hahhaa... will be seeing her very more often nxt sem since both of us are majoring psyche!! =)


this is of cuz kee yilynn... my very very gd fren... she had some rough times wif her relationship n ya... haha, tried to provide her support whenever i can n aniwaes shes a strong gal!!! =) haha, tat dae went to the hair removal thingy using strings, she was like crying becuz of the pain... funny... but she never scream... ermm... tats an example of how strong tis gal is!!! hahaha.. tok kok... but im sure a pretty gal like her will be snapped up soon!!!


this is chowloo!!! hahaha... a really gd fren 2 =) she sings like an angel seriously... hahaha... we had some unhappy times back then... thanx for keeping me as a fren =)
joanna!! my perfect match hahaha... thanx for the concern ya show me whenever im like down n out... hope i can be the listener when ya have problems 2... but gal ah... i noe as usual im naggy but...study harder k!!?? haaha... may be seeing very little of ya nxt sem since i will not be taking new media wif u but as alwaz, lets have teh peng 2gethr k!!?? aniwaes my fren huihuang, the tall tall wan tat say ya head can use as rule?? OOPPsss... hahaha... he misses u 2, hahaha


woah... tis is realliiiii my darling man... haahha... the angel that uses to wear socks n shoes for me, bring me to school... hahha... she still cooks n its still damn nice... but she was abit depressed recently cuz she was having very bad arthritis... luckily recently we managed to get a good doctor, shes feeling much bettr now after a $500 injection... im serious abt the price... but a small price to pay for popo to smile again =) will write another entry now!!! hahaha


11:33 PM

Saturday, December 02, 2006,

hi my dear blog... its been damn long since i visited u... tats becuz i have been realli bz these daes... not that im not bz now... but to visit u means im very frustrated now... aniwae no one will see this i guess cuz my dear blog ya r deem non existent now... if im not happy in a relationship, should i try to solve the problems?? or should i juz break up... sometimes i realli cant take it anymore... well before these 2 daes the longest period of peace i had was i guess 1 week plus??

2dae i asked her again whether we r going out after exams end, she said shes not sure... i was very scared that she juz wanted me to ask her out so i realli was unsure, yes i did ask many times but i realli was unsure n wanted to go out wif her... she said i was treatg her like she was the "her in the past"... she said she realli meant it when she said she didnt wanna go out... she said i was like digging out her past, she doesnt like to be reminded how she treated me last time... if she thinks that she treated me so badly, shldnt she be very happy i decided to commit to this relatnship again?? n the way she thinks n the thgs that piss her off... in wad way is that showing me she has matured?? when i said "yes gal?" she complained that she didnt like it cuz she didnt call for any reason... "yes gal" is like juz a greetg word u say when ya pick up the phone ya??

whatever, i dunno how long i can take this animore... thanx for listening to me again blog... thanx

10:37 PM